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The Role (Models) of Reality TV
Posted in Guest Posts,Wabona on April 22nd, 2013 By Wabona
How do you feel about Reality Television programs? I personally enjoy them. Programs like The Real Housewives, Big Brother, Suvivor, Celebrity Apprentice, RuPaul’s Drag Race, Iyanla Fix My Life, Love and Hip Hop, Braxton Family Values and many others provide for great entertainment. These programs also contribute to society and illustrate how etiquette has changed between women.
Because of the many dynamics and dramatic situations that can occur in one season plenty of do’s and don’ts are displayed. Giving to the idea that etiquette and positive social behavior has been left to the waste side and new rules have been put into place. Easily so, being that television is a great outlet to spread information be it positive or negative. It is left up to the individual to decide what to absorb or discard, unfortunately, what you put in comes out with little human control.
One observation I have noticed that occurs is change in dialog. Conversations now require an Urban Dictionary, separating drag slogans from cliches spewed by housewives. True enough, this can make for a very funny conversation if humor is there, but I find that woman are mean and disingenuous. Trying to read every woman that crosses their path.
Staring you down as if you owe them money! But once they find out you are the wife of someone that matters or established professional woman attitudes change and the pretending to like you ensues, just until they get what they desire. Playing out like a reality show scene.
So because NeNe throws shade with a side eye it gives women the authority to do the same? If Tamar Braxton throws a temper tantrum and repeatedly insults her sisters with ill intent we should do the same as well? No mam, this is improper behavior and requires more cognitive thinking. Processing events deeply and sorting the good from the bad. We should view these interactions as lessons in conduct, deciphering right from wrong.
It isn’t proper to be rude to someone simply because you don’t know who they are. False perceptions derived from rumors is not reality.
As woman it is important that we band together and call out improper conduct among us. We have to get this right. It is detrimental to our succession. We have to acknowledge that having an unpleasant demeanor, being a mean girl or having inappropriate dialog can cause a loss in opportunity and economic growth. These folks on these shows are paid for bad behavior, but we aren’t! We can’t forget what’s important and maintaining proper conduct is detrimental to our well being as mothers, daughters, sisters, cousins and friends.
Decorum is of the utmost importance in child rearing, womanhood and advancement. The same requirements of civility that we require from our children we have to be able to teach our children civility! At the workplace we can’t move forward having a negative demeanor decreasing opportunity. Even if you can perform the job functions and duties you will never be blessed with the opportunity of you allow television shows to direct your behavior. We have to be aware and candid with ourselves and others to say that isn’t the way to behave. This is for pure recreation and not for reenactment.
-Tara
Who is Tara? Tara is a married mother of 2. She has something to say about everything! And of course she an addict when it comes to reality television!
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